Pink Planet: Tom-Spotting In Bangkok

The amazing Thai butch-femme. Nobody in Bangkok uses the L-word. Even though there’s a sturdily active lesbian scene. Toms are highly visible, reports says Julia Steinecke, who recently brought us the Bangkok – Fantasy Land for Gay Tourists.

Toms are highly visible and Dees (short for bisexual or straight ladies) can find them in any public place and approach them. Which they do enthusiastically, we’re about to learn. And guess what: Bangkok’s Toms and Dees, it seems, have some lusty ancestors.

Toms are even a better kind of man: Her Tom’s not as selfish as a man, says a Dee. Whatever she wants, her Tom’s just buying it for her. Want a Tom? Well, maybe the young Toms who tease up their hair and bind their breasts are going a little too far for your taste.

By Julia Steinecke, Toronto Star

Due to a copyright request by the Toronto-based freelance author we’re only able to mirror the story via Toronto Star.

To further deepen your knowledge about the issue, there’s www.bangkoklesbian.com and Lesbian Travel Bangkok.

Highly recommended reading: “Toms and Dees: Transgender Identity and Female Same-Sex Relationships in Thailand” by Megan J. Sinnott:

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4 Responses to “Pink Planet: Tom-Spotting In Bangkok”

chang dek on September 15th, 2008 2.55 pm

Spotting Toms is as much an acquired art as is de-coding the best katoeys … and beware to any male approaching their Dee’s … fun and sports in the cross-genderized LOS.
chang dek on September 18th, 2008 8.09 pm

African and American dress codes miss Thailand:

Even with Thai dress codes being fairly conservative, now with Purachai in early-to-bed seclusion, many Thais enjoy the freedom to dress how they wish, in contrast to the US:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/americas/7622793.stm

Or even Africa, also with it’s enormous problems:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/africa/7621823.stm
tranner on September 22nd, 2008 1.56 pm

Asian Sweetheart has a take on this story – maybe I should find myself a Tom.
The Bank: Nightclub Unplugged on September 1st, 2009 7.33 pm

[...] are allowed … we do have some lesbians, some Toms, of course they’re Thai. We can have lady guests, we just charge them a guest [...]

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