Forgive my forwardness but this is a bit confusing to people and sends mixed messages. Please feel free to disregard my last post and remove that and this post from final approval. I meant not disrespect to miss kaewmala or your site. It was a knee jerk reaction but I realize I was in the wrong and I sincerely apologize for that. Some clarification in the future would be helpful so as to avoid any miscommunication in the future. Thank you for a great post as your work is appreciated!!

I do not claim to know everything. I was merely trying to take your advise and engage in some debate on the issue. As usual people take out of context what I say and get it all wrong. There are people that were far more critical then me which didn’t get the same treatment so what gives? If I some how offended you I do apologize. I will try to clear up any misunderstanding you may have had as that clearly was not my focus here. `_`

What things are turn offs and turn-ons? What things irritate them about Thai men and how can I use that to my advantage. What are the requirements for a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship and how does that fit into the bigger picture? How do I convey my true feelings without being seen like some sex-tourist? Does how you dress really have an effect on how a Thai girl sees you? Not really a problem there though. When I do go out as rare as that is, do so in style haha. You would never guess I was a mole living underground most of the time lol. How does age factor into all of this etc etc. The more I can alter my behavior and in a since think more Thai. Maybe the better chance I will have meeting a Thai girl in the long run!

Breaking social and societal stereotypes is no easy task especially for Farlang like me but I like to believe it is not impossible. Learning the language is pretty much a no brainier in my view. This at least shows you have interest in their language and or culture which is a good first step. Context I imagine also plays an important role here as well as within most Asian societies. How well you are able to decipher that will in many ways determine how successful or not you are in the end I believe. Maybe this is a fools dream as some would say and am wasting my time. Kinda ironic really as my whole life up to this point has been wasted time!! I have to commend kaewmala for giving us a rare insight into a Thai woman’s mind. That is rare at any level (Women’s Mind) and appreciate your efforts. God knows we need all the help we can get!! ^_^

I lived in Thailand for four years until a year ago.

My own personal experience as a farang dating Thai women is that they basically came in two versions. Fast and loose or extremely sheltered.

The fast ones are not the “for hire” type but I was surprised how quickly they are willing to have sex. I have been told that some Thai females look for a farang to be the “kik” because the farang is so far removed from their community of family and friends that they won’t really have to worry about the shame of casual sex. The sheltered types are the “good girls,” college educated (in Thailand) and let’s say it … white skin. But they come across as so unaware of anything outside of Thailand and seem to have a maturity level that is much more slow to develop. Finding a Thai woman that I could relate to on a deep level was the biggest hurdle. One I never cleared in the time I had.

Yes, I have been painting with a broad brush here but I am speaking in a very general sense.

Sorry if you have sent me emails and got no reply. After having received your last comment, I checked my inbox and found no new emails or any old ones that I haven’t opened. If you still want to get in touch, email me at kaewmala@thaisextalk.com.

Kind regards,
kaewmala