Comments on: The Female Sex Tourist http://absolutelybangkok.com/the-female-sex-tourist/ Welcome to Bangkok Thailand, Airport, Politics, Food, Nightlife and Thai Culture of the Big Mango! Wed, 20 Jul 2011 22:43:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Rainer http://absolutelybangkok.com/the-female-sex-tourist/#comment-14881 Rainer Thu, 24 Feb 2011 04:35:48 +0000 http://absolutelybangkok.com/?p=140#comment-14881 Cameron Ola: Thanks for your excellent comment! It is exactly how it happens. It helped me further to open my eyes and I believe now that women like my Claudia who are in relationship with "weak" males will soon or later take out the right to have sex with their preferred partners, in Claudia's case exclusively young Asian guys in their early twenties. Once they have bedded a white lady they develop an absolute boosting self-confidence. Please let me add to your theory that I think that, in addition what you say, there are "strong" and "inferior" males. The strong ones usually "cage" their wifes/girlfriend etc. and mange to keep male competitors away from their females. Whereas the inferior males are under big stress: They cannot openly and publicly admit that they feel inferior to other males nor can they admit it to their wifes/ girlfriends ... because society will not tolerate this behavior. As inferior males they are under permanent stress to loose their wifes to superior males. I cannot speak for other couples but Claudia as a women found quickly out that I am an inferior male. I believe any woman will find out soon or later what status her male has, if she is in a relationship with a male for some time. Humiliating me extremley with the young "strong" Asian (he was only 19 years I was 30 years!) was maybe the wrong thing to do. But on the other hand it made very clear to me that I could not prevent my girl from opening her tighs for this young self-confindent Asian, nor did I dare to confront him and chase hime away. It is brutal, but within a couple of days there was a clear hierarchy between us three, in which I had to take my place on the very bottom or loose my girl. The humiliation was so extreme because he was 1. an Asian money boy 2. Asians male are in the Western media always considered as weaker than Western men and often serve only as toy boys for gay and are pictured as not being able to satisfy western women 3. the Asian men small penis myth and 4. I had to pay him openly and in public respect as my girls holiday lover ... and she encouraged me to accept him as "the winner" to avoid tensions. Yes like I said, for a Western male this treatment is cruel. But if I am honest, was its Claudia fault or the Thai guy's fault who seized his chance to penetrate a white women and live on a Western holiday's couple budget? No, I did, as an inferior male, let it happen. Claudia if you like helped me in a shock therapy to open my eyes and if you like uncaged her sexuality in that Bangkok night in 2007. There is nothing bad to be an inferior man but one must be ready to accept the rules. For Claudia the situation is now at it best as she is together with an absolute reliable partner who will never cheat on her, whereas she has seized her right to have sex with prefered young Asians as often as she likes, without fearing any punishment/ revenge from an inferior male. I myself also commence to accept the situation realizing that not all man can be superior and some, like me, will always have to accept to share their wifes and will be only "someone in the queue" when it comes to wild sex. I reckon further that for women who want to explore fully their sexuality it makes sense to seek a relationship with a soft and inferior male who is absolutely reliable when it comes to managing daily live, bringing up his kids (...or even the bastard-babies of a competitor as his own offspring in order to fulfill expected social norms and to protect thereby the good reputation of his wife) , etc. I am still desperately trying to find more Westeners who had to share their wifes with Asian men ... but I reckon it is a too big shame to talk about it in public and there are only very few cases. Rainer Cameron Ola: Thanks for your excellent comment! It is exactly how it happens. It helped me further to open my eyes and I believe now that women like my Claudia who are in relationship with “weak” males will soon or later take out the right to have sex with their preferred partners, in Claudia’s case exclusively young Asian guys in their early twenties. Once they have bedded a white lady they develop an absolute boosting self-confidence.

Please let me add to your theory that I think that, in addition what you say, there are “strong” and “inferior” males. The strong ones usually “cage” their wifes/girlfriend etc. and mange to keep male competitors away from their females. Whereas the inferior males are under big stress: They cannot openly and publicly admit that they feel inferior to other males nor can they admit it to their wifes/ girlfriends … because society will not tolerate this behavior. As inferior males they are under permanent stress to loose their wifes to superior males.

I cannot speak for other couples but Claudia as a women found quickly out that I am an inferior male. I believe any woman will find out soon or later what status her male has, if she is in a relationship with a male for some time.

Humiliating me extremley with the young “strong” Asian (he was only 19 years I was 30 years!) was maybe the wrong thing to do. But on the other hand it made very clear to me that I could not prevent my girl from opening her tighs for this young self-confindent Asian, nor did I dare to confront him and chase hime away. It is brutal, but within a couple of days there was a clear hierarchy between us three, in which I had to take my place on the very bottom or loose my girl. The humiliation was so extreme because he was 1. an Asian money boy 2. Asians male are in the Western media always considered as weaker than Western men and often serve only as toy boys for gay and are pictured as not being able to satisfy western women 3. the Asian men small penis myth and 4. I had to pay him openly and in public respect as my girls holiday lover … and she encouraged me to accept him as “the winner” to avoid tensions. Yes like I said, for a Western male this treatment is cruel.

But if I am honest, was its Claudia fault or the Thai guy’s fault who seized his chance to penetrate a white women and live on a Western holiday’s couple budget? No, I did, as an inferior male, let it happen. Claudia if you like helped me in a shock therapy to open my eyes and if you like uncaged her sexuality in that Bangkok night in 2007. There is nothing bad to be an inferior man but one must be ready to accept the rules.

For Claudia the situation is now at it best as she is together with an absolute reliable partner who will never cheat on her, whereas she has seized her right to have sex with prefered young Asians as often as she likes, without fearing any punishment/ revenge from an inferior male. I myself also commence to accept the situation realizing that not all man can be superior and some, like me, will always have to accept to share their wifes and will be only “someone in the queue” when it comes to wild sex. I reckon further that for women who want to explore fully their sexuality it makes sense to seek a relationship with a soft and inferior male who is absolutely reliable when it comes to managing daily live, bringing up his kids (…or even the bastard-babies of a competitor as his own offspring in order to fulfill expected social norms and to protect thereby the good reputation of his wife) , etc.

I am still desperately trying to find more Westeners who had to share their wifes with Asian men … but I reckon it is a too big shame to talk about it in public and there are only very few cases.

Rainer

]]> By: Cameron Ola http://absolutelybangkok.com/the-female-sex-tourist/#comment-14858 Cameron Ola Sat, 12 Feb 2011 20:13:22 +0000 http://absolutelybangkok.com/?p=140#comment-14858 this is more comon then some people think, women are very complicated beings who needs appreciation and alot of attention, if a women gets bored you have a problem, thats wy guys who are assholes always gets the chicks, because there are more action, don't you guys often wonder why that asshole gets all the ladys? sure we say we want a nice, wellspeakened, polite guy who give us comftable lifes, but the thing is that it doesn't matter if shes married o whatever, she can have a dream or fantasy or just be the prudest girl ever because when the right guy appears at the right time with all the excitement and tabbo at stake its somehow feels good, if your girl are bored you have a problem in that situation, girls want to have the cake and eat it to! But probably the stupiest thing your man can do at that time is to approve it, it doesn't matter if its about a thai guy, a gangbang or just fuck another dude, because when you have allowed it it will only grow bigger and bigger in a females head because all the women in the world wide wouldn't say no to a fun, mysterious and dangerous experience, but we girls are stupid to because at that moment we don't think at everything we have home and the consequenses for our actions But Rainer i don't know how old you are and for how long you have been thogether with claudia, if its children involded now or what had happend now, but one thing i know is that there is 2 reactions to what you have experienced, theres the jeoulious wariant with the stone in the stumic and a living hell for the brain, i really hope you doesn't think about it everyday and everytime you guys have sex, wich is normal after that experience, the other wariant is alot like the first one but it could be a turn one for the husband to, some guys like to be humiliated and because of that it makes the relationship a little bit easier, but i really hope you fix that selfesteme and duscuse with claudia that you want to to the same thing just to se the reaction and then make a disiction after that reaction if you want her to stop being unfatful or if you both should have the same rights, your not alone and there are many guys who let themselves get abused in realtionships like that, but if you not put an end to it or something that makes you feel better you will be barrying yourself with alot of stress and physical pain! stand up for youself and respect yourself ! sorry about the shitty english! this is more comon then some people think, women are very complicated beings who needs appreciation and alot of attention, if a women gets bored you have a problem, thats wy guys who are assholes always gets the chicks, because there are more action, don’t you guys often wonder why that asshole gets all the ladys?

sure we say we want a nice, wellspeakened, polite guy who give us comftable lifes, but the thing is that it doesn’t matter if shes married o whatever, she can have a dream or fantasy or just be the prudest girl ever because when the right guy appears at the right time with all the excitement and tabbo at stake its somehow feels good, if your girl are bored you have a problem in that situation, girls want to have the cake and eat it to!

But probably the stupiest thing your man can do at that time is to approve it, it doesn’t matter if its about a thai guy, a gangbang or just fuck another dude, because when you have allowed it it will only grow bigger and bigger in a females head because all the women in the world wide wouldn’t say no to a fun, mysterious and dangerous experience, but we girls are stupid to because at that moment we don’t think at everything we have home and the consequenses for our actions

But Rainer i don’t know how old you are and for how long you have been thogether with claudia, if its children involded now or what had happend now,
but one thing i know is that there is 2 reactions to what you have experienced, theres the jeoulious wariant with the stone in the stumic and a living hell for the brain, i really hope you doesn’t think about it everyday and everytime you guys have sex, wich is normal after that experience, the other wariant is alot like the first one but it could be a turn one for the husband to, some guys like to be humiliated and because of that it makes the relationship a little bit easier,

but i really hope you fix that selfesteme and duscuse with claudia that you want to to the same thing just to se the reaction and then make a disiction after that reaction if you want her to stop being unfatful or if you both should have the same rights, your not alone and there are many guys who let themselves get abused in realtionships like that, but if you not put an end to it or something that makes you feel better you will be barrying yourself with alot of stress and physical pain! stand up for youself and respect yourself ! sorry about the shitty english!

]]> By: Tweets that mention The Female Sex Tourist -- Topsy.com http://absolutelybangkok.com/the-female-sex-tourist/#comment-14832 Tweets that mention The Female Sex Tourist -- Topsy.com Sun, 30 Jan 2011 09:38:21 +0000 http://absolutelybangkok.com/?p=140#comment-14832 [...] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Alberto Camorali, Clara Boxall. Clara Boxall said: Social taboo or empowerment? Asian women buying men like they buy women. Female Sex Tourism, #Thailand http://bit.ly/eQRxt3 [...] [...] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Alberto Camorali, Clara Boxall. Clara Boxall said: Social taboo or empowerment? Asian women buying men like they buy women. Female Sex Tourism, #Thailand http://bit.ly/eQRxt3 [...]

]]> By: usa http://absolutelybangkok.com/the-female-sex-tourist/#comment-14810 usa Thu, 06 Jan 2011 13:11:19 +0000 http://absolutelybangkok.com/?p=140#comment-14810 het rainer i think u are a troll becuse u are way too descriptive,,u are a woman writing all that trash,,a man who went through that stuff like u said u did ,,would ,,could never waste his time talkin bout that in such a circular openended pointless manner except if ! u ! are !in fact ! a female! pretending to be a !guy!im sure ure either a young female tring to get into the heads of us men,,also u could be an older female who has never had a true meaningfull caring loving ,passionate relationship with a man.i can tell by your words...anyway either way sex 4 cash so retarded,,its better if 2 people like each other and make love becuse they are hormonal,,and enjoy each others company than later on sex would avail itself to both sides like a free trade agreement. sex 4 cash does seem desperate..when women expect me to be a socalled typical guy and pay them cash i just look at them and laugh,,sex 4 cash with no real love i tell them ,,is like food without flavor,,when ur not hungry for food,,,,,next u should see the confused and dazed dizzy faces on the women who i tell that to..hahaha,,i personally feel many times not always that the man has a weakness and is exploited by the women,,lets face it men reaaly hate when they are with a woman who hides her true ,honest normal civilized emotions,,we men know when u women arent secure with ur selves,,,becuse u get all silent,and talkative,,at the same time,itell you people who in the world wants to always have the idea ,memory ,recolection that you slept,had sex with a strange woman u could would never trust? nasty sad,thought when ,if u get married u will always remember u lost ur virginity to a women ..or a man who was not in love with u or a person u had to pay to orgasm with? how sad,and used exploited for mens money and womens bodies,,all men and women suffer men suffer emotional stress as they grow older and realize they were tricked by beauty ,,and women realize they were tricked by there own insecure emotions,of not knowing how to think 4 themselves. het rainer i think u are a troll becuse u are way too descriptive,,u are a woman writing all that trash,,a man who went through that stuff like u said u did ,,would ,,could never waste his time talkin bout that in such a circular openended pointless manner except if ! u ! are !in fact ! a female! pretending to be a !guy!im sure ure either a young female tring to get into the heads of us men,,also u could be an older female who has never had a true meaningfull caring loving ,passionate relationship with a man.i can tell by your words…anyway either way sex 4 cash so retarded,,its better if 2 people like each other and make love becuse they are hormonal,,and enjoy each others company than later on sex would avail itself to both sides like a free trade agreement. sex 4 cash does seem desperate..when women expect me to be a socalled typical
guy and pay them cash i just look at them and laugh,,sex 4 cash with no real love i tell them ,,is like food without flavor,,when ur not hungry for food,,,,,next u should see the confused and dazed dizzy faces on the women who i tell that to..hahaha,,i personally feel many times not always that the man has a weakness and is exploited by the women,,lets face it men reaaly hate when they are with a woman who hides her true ,honest normal civilized emotions,,we men know when u women arent secure with ur selves,,,becuse u get all silent,and talkative,,at the same time,itell you people who in the world wants to always have the idea ,memory ,recolection that you slept,had sex with a strange woman u could would never trust? nasty sad,thought when ,if u get married u will always remember u lost ur virginity to a women ..or a man who was not in love with u or a person u had to pay to orgasm with? how sad,and used exploited for mens money and womens bodies,,all men and women suffer men suffer emotional stress as they grow older and realize they were tricked by beauty ,,and women realize they were tricked by there own insecure emotions,of not knowing how to think 4 themselves.

]]> By: Rainer http://absolutelybangkok.com/the-female-sex-tourist/#comment-12565 Rainer Thu, 02 Dec 2010 03:40:11 +0000 http://absolutelybangkok.com/?p=140#comment-12565 ... yes I am serious, and things like this happen. It is still better as if your girl is cheating secretly on you. … yes I am serious, and things like this happen.

It is still better as if your girl is cheating secretly on you.

]]> By: John http://absolutelybangkok.com/the-female-sex-tourist/#comment-12556 John Tue, 30 Nov 2010 07:28:08 +0000 http://absolutelybangkok.com/?p=140#comment-12556 WTF?? Are you guys serious?? If you share your girl with another man, you are a moron!! WTF?? Are you guys serious?? If you share your girl with another man, you are a moron!!

]]> By: Rainer http://absolutelybangkok.com/the-female-sex-tourist/#comment-12287 Rainer Thu, 26 Aug 2010 06:02:27 +0000 http://absolutelybangkok.com/?p=140#comment-12287 I must admit Tom is basically right ... I was overwhelmed by Bangkok, by the sudden sex fantasies of my girlfriend, by the growing willingness to do it with a young Asian and by the absolute determination of Thai gigolos who preyed on her and our holiday budget once sensing her readiness and my weakness. And finally? Yes, I did let it happen ... maybe hoping it will be just a quick and regrettable one-night stand. But it went all the other way. A lot of other guys (especially European and American guys) had only hatred and contempt for me and my confession. On the other hand some Chinese and Vietnamese guys offered Claudia and me even money to get a photo from her. I know quite well that only very few Asians will ever have a chance to insamenate a white girl ... and however I try to justify my weakness in Bangkok I am totally aware that a young Asian practically made me to a castrated underdog in front of my girl, who enjoyed openly sex with the "fitter" guy once I accepted the new hierachy. I believe it is an unthinkable situation and total taboo situation for most Westerners, which caused so many angry reactions. On the other hand my relationship to Claudia has changed but not to the negative. We love each other and she has become my fiancé. It is not that she has contempt for me since Bangkok, but she takes out the right to have occassionally sex with suitable smart young Asians and expects me to tolerate it. The situation fits her as she can rely on me anytime as her partner. Since Bangkok their is no need for her to hide her very special sexual fantasies or to cheat on me but to live them unrestricted ... and believe me, my jealousy never stops. This is the high price what I have to pay to accept a total taboo and again I wonder with how many any other Western males I share the same fate ...? AVOID STEREOTYPES: Believe me, MY FARANG Girl does NOT HATE Thailand, she is not passive when it comes to date Thai guys she finds suitable for a sex affair and pay the youngster for her/his fun instead of wailing around about Thai girls and white guys. I wonder if I should hate Thailand … but I don’t! <em>(BD: I fear not too many Rainer, yours' a very liberal approach ...)</em> I must admit Tom is basically right … I was overwhelmed by Bangkok, by the sudden sex fantasies of my girlfriend, by the growing willingness to do it with a young Asian and by the absolute determination of Thai gigolos who preyed on her and our holiday budget once sensing her readiness and my weakness. And finally? Yes, I did let it happen … maybe hoping it will be just a quick and regrettable one-night stand. But it went all the other way.

A lot of other guys (especially European and American guys) had only hatred and contempt for me and my confession. On the other hand some Chinese and Vietnamese guys offered Claudia and me even money to get a photo from her. I know quite well that only very few Asians will ever have a chance to insamenate a white girl … and however I try to justify my weakness in Bangkok I am totally aware that a young Asian practically made me to a castrated underdog in front of my girl, who enjoyed openly sex with the “fitter” guy once I accepted the new hierachy.

I believe it is an unthinkable situation and total taboo situation for most Westerners, which caused so many angry reactions. On the other hand my relationship to Claudia has changed but not to the negative. We love each other and she has become my fiancé. It is not that she has contempt for me since Bangkok, but she takes out the right to have occassionally sex with suitable smart young Asians and expects me to tolerate it. The situation fits her as she can rely on me anytime as her partner. Since Bangkok their is no need for her to hide her very special sexual fantasies or to cheat on me but to live them unrestricted … and believe me, my jealousy never stops. This is the high price what I have to pay to accept a total taboo and again I wonder with how many any other Western males I share the same fate …?

AVOID STEREOTYPES: Believe me, MY FARANG Girl does NOT HATE Thailand, she is not passive when it comes to date Thai guys she finds suitable for a sex affair and pay the youngster for her/his fun instead of wailing around about Thai girls and white guys. I wonder if I should hate Thailand … but I don’t!

(BD: I fear not too many Rainer, yours’ a very liberal approach …)

]]> By: Matthew http://absolutelybangkok.com/the-female-sex-tourist/#comment-10702 Matthew Sat, 20 Feb 2010 23:26:21 +0000 http://absolutelybangkok.com/?p=140#comment-10702 Why is it cool for girls to buy sex but when men do it they considered low life scum by the mainstream? Why is it cool for girls to buy sex but when men do it they considered low life scum by the mainstream?

]]> By: ChuckWow http://absolutelybangkok.com/the-female-sex-tourist/#comment-10699 ChuckWow Sat, 20 Feb 2010 07:50:07 +0000 http://absolutelybangkok.com/?p=140#comment-10699 Random thoughts/questions stirred by this posting : 1. I still miss Bernard Trink's column in the Bangkok Post. 2. I am familiar with the Thai word falang/farang but not "forung." Is this a way of denoting that you are talking about a "chocolate man"? 3. If you take your wife/girlfriend to Thailand for vacation and plan to do a little carousing yourself then I think it is only fair that your wife/girlfriend be allowed to do so as well. If you don't then she shouldn't either. 4. Interesting question - "what about the "horny Japanese housewives heading off to Bangkok to grab a slice of the Thai life"?" Years ago when I worked in northern Japan the Japanese men would go to Thailand for sex and the Japanese women would go to Bali for male companionship - not necessarily for sex but rather to have a man treat them as they wanted to be treated because their husbands would not. Apparently the times they are a changing. Random thoughts/questions stirred by this posting :

1. I still miss Bernard Trink’s column in the Bangkok Post.

2. I am familiar with the Thai word falang/farang but not “forung.” Is this a way of denoting that you are talking about a “chocolate man”?

3. If you take your wife/girlfriend to Thailand for vacation and plan to do a little carousing yourself then I think it is only fair that your wife/girlfriend be allowed to do so as well. If you don’t then she shouldn’t either.

4. Interesting question – “what about the “horny Japanese housewives heading off to Bangkok to grab a slice of the Thai life”?”

Years ago when I worked in northern Japan the Japanese men would go to Thailand for sex and the Japanese women would go to Bali for male companionship – not necessarily for sex but rather to have a man treat them as they wanted to be treated because their husbands would not. Apparently the times they are a changing.

]]> By: Rainer http://absolutelybangkok.com/the-female-sex-tourist/#comment-8482 Rainer Mon, 16 Nov 2009 08:11:03 +0000 http://absolutelybangkok.com/?p=140#comment-8482 Read this article by a guy who lived for a long time in Thailand about thai beach boys, how they "capture" white girls for fun, sex and money. An excellent article which shows the truth! http://www.travelpod.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=6742&pid=217701&st=0&#entry217701 Rainer Read this article by a guy who lived for a long time in Thailand about thai beach boys, how they “capture” white girls for fun, sex and money. An excellent article which shows the truth!

http://www.travelpod.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=6742&pid=217701&st=0&#entry217701

Rainer

]]>